My life completely transformed after I stepped foot into the ashram of light, then called “Omrit”. Om – the primordial sound of the universe – the sacred sound with the highest vibratory frequency associated with the creation of the universe, and Rit – meaning nectar. Omrit translates to Cosmic Nectar – the unlimited love of the universe.
The chef told me at my first visit that I had to stop wearing make-up if I wanted my face to get better. “NO WAY” I said. How do I stop wearing make up? I can’t just walk around bare-faced, pimple-faced, what are people going to think?
“You have to.” He said, “Are you going to heal, or are you going to live your life being scared of what people think of you?”
“Of course I want to heal!!!!!” I cried.
“Then you have to stop wearing make-up. They’re clogging up your pores and they’re not allowing you to heal… To see yourself for who you are. So what if people look at you? If they can’t see you for who you truly are, do their opinions really matter? ” The chef asked.
“No. Ok. Ok I will stop wearing make-up…” I replied.
The World isn’t So Bad…
And so I did. I took baby steps and stopped wearing dark eyeshadow (and embraced my chinky Chinese eyes, which was a BIG deal for me), sometimes wore a bit of foundation, and other times completely stopped wearing it altogether. The only times I ever wore make-up was to go to work where I had to look fierce and all as a bartender. I’ve been wearing only dark eyeshadow since college and hardly ever left home bare-eyed.
I persisted with my determination to allow my face to breathe and heal, and stayed strong sans make-up when facing demeaning comments like “Go see a derm,” “Put on some make-up”, and “What happened to your face?!”
To my surprise, my friends and I still hung out like we did before, my colleagues were just as pleasant to me, and the people in my life remained pretty much the same. The people that mattered to me and the people I mattered to didn’t treat me any differently at all.
Do Everything in Life with Love
Two weeks after my first visit to Omrit, my beautiful Guru finally came back to Singapore from the states. She was in every way exquisite – there was pure love in Her eyes and Her very being was divine, so divine that you would feel the buzz being in Her very presence.
I didn’t understand what I was experiencing, just as I didn’t understand what the energies of Omrit were, but everything She said to me was absorbed at a very different frequency. I never learned at this fast of a pace before.
I visited Her every day after work to hear Her teachings, Her wisdom and Her stories. I would’ve never imagined a divine being to be so very funny as well. Her humor was spectacular… And she understood everything about everything. The joy I had just being given the permission to be with Her, to hang around at the ashram, cook there, clean there, and serve food to the people that visited was all I wanted to do. I even went clubbing with my colleagues once, got bored, and went over to the ashram drunk. But once I stepped foot in the space, I would sober up immediately.
Guruji taught us to do everything with love – especially cooking – that energies are always transferring and you’re always going to want to consume love – not anger, not pressure, and that’s why home-cooked food (like our mama’s, or grandma’s) are always so much more comforting.
She taught us to always be in humble gratitude to receive and to be able to give at all times. I became significantly more positive, cheerful, and optimistic about the things in my life. Because I found it so much more pleasant to be with myself, I spent much less time worrying about how much other people liked me and started to enjoy their company more as well. Life became more about giving love and compassion, and not taking attention and validation from other people.
The Ego & Its Images
I stumbled into Omrit one evening when Guruji was having Her usual class with Her senior students. It was the first time I’ve ever learned about the ego and its images – how we are inclined to uphold certain images to suit certain situations, how we want to portray an ‘image’ and a ‘personality’ to the world so people would think of us the way we want them to.
I learned that our true selves have no image. Only the ego does. And that is what Guruji teaches – self-realization – how do you truly understand and become aware of yourself enough to see these non-beneficial personalities and release them from your life? For example, because I wanted people to always see me as an independent, strong, beautiful, and intelligent female, each time anybody saw me for my emotions and weaknesses, I would be furious at them for finding out the truth. We use these negative emotions to protect us from losing these ego images and desires that we so dearly uphold.
So what if you let go of all of these things and just be yourself? Do you even know how to be your ‘true’ self?
I can honestly say that I don’t truly know yet. But because I’ve been Guruji’s student for more than four years now, I’ve learned to see the reasons why I have all of these emotions, these energies, and each time I feel that torturing sense of anger or fear, I am now much better at deciphering them before releasing them.
I also learned that we are addicted to these feelings because we are so used to it. We have forgotten what it is like to be blissful in the ‘now’. When you’re in the presence and are aware of everything about you and around you, you no longer have to brew over the past, get anxious at the thought of the future, you just ‘are’, and that’s absolutely wonderful.
It has been an amazing experience so far. Although I still go through these emotions, each time I am more detached from it, each time I am better at handling them.
“Enlightenment is having emotions, but not being attached to those emotions.” Guruji once said. As a human being, you won’t stop having emotions. If you see a car coming towards you, you’re going to freak out, but you don’t have to be attached to those emotions. If someone dies, you will feel the loss, but you can be positive and allow that person to continue on his or her pathway without holding them back with your depression. When you truly want something in your life, you can do your very best, but stay detached from the results. It is a journey to learn how to experience your ‘self’ the right way – the non-anxious, non-angry, non-fearful – the peaceful, blissful way. To realize that you were born alone and you will die alone, and that you can’t hold onto anything is truly blissful.
I wasn’t exactly expecting myself to go in depth with Guruji’s teachings today, but oh well, it happened. I am going to go with the flow! I would love to continue talking more about this some other time. Because I’ve been in Bangkok for a while now, I have been much more in touch with the teachings of Buddhism, and so I am speaking from much more of a Buddhist mindset than I usually do. Each great master’s teachings are very pleasant in their own ways.
Detachment from the Image
Back to me.
I continued to visit Guruji almost every day. On one friday evening, I showed up at Omrit after work in my navy blue pencil skirt and a white with navy blue pin-stripesRalph Lauren button-down shirt. I sat in the corner closest to Guruji like I always did (good students sit in front LOL). That night, Guruji spoke of the ego, one of the very first classes I’ve attended. This was in January 2012, I remember. She spoke of our hair – that our hair held our image the most intensely and held and intense amount of our emotions as well, like a recording of what we’ve been through. I finally understood why it felt so wonderful each time I had a haircut after a break up hahahaha. The chef was there too, and he turned to me and said “time to cut your hair Tida!”. Again I reacted extremely violently and told him to “SHUT UP”. I was that freaked out and attached to my hair. Mind you, it was long. Super long. And I’ve always had long hair and made a lot of effort to make sure they were perfectly wavy and had perfect volume every single day. I voiced to everybody that I was NOT going to cut my hair. No way. No. I am Tida and Tida has long hair.
Me being me, I would whine first at the slightest thought of losing my image in any way possible, and yet me being me, I knew I had to do the right thing. Once I know the truth and feel it in my core that it is the truth, it would no longer be right for me to uphold such stupidity. I’ve already committed myself to learning self-realization, what rubbish would I be holding onto if I can’t even give up mere hair.
Less than a month after that class, Amanda, another student of Guruji’s who was the same age as me, chopped off her long locks. She was a singer too, and she was game enough to go for a bob. Now it was my turn. I just graduated, just got my first real job, and change was inevitable.
I returned to Taiwan to spend Chinese New Year with the family, and decided to get my haircut there (after getting mama’s consent).
It felt extremely liberating. Wow.
Not only was I rocking a new bob. I made another big change, and by then it had been two months – I turned vegetarian.
Why I Am Vegetarian
When the chef strangled me, I completely freaked out and automatically felt anger towards him. WHY ON EARTH WOULD HE TRY TO HURT ME LIKE THAT?! WHISKEY TANGO FOXTROT?!
He read my mind, and said “Well you see, animals are like us… They feel pain. They suffer. They get angry and fearful. And like us, when we go into mental distress, our bodies pain – we hold so much emotions in our muscles. It is the same with animals. They’re very intelligent, and we keep slaughtering them for our tongue’s pleasures – manipulating ourselves into believing that we NEED protein and nutrients from them. We don’t. Everything you get from animals, you can get it from plants – and plant-based nutrients are a hundred times better. If you can’t even handle your self and your emotions, why are you transferring their energies into your body? Why are you processing their anger? Every day they see their mother, father, siblings get slaughtered, they get slaughtered, do you think they’re happy to experience such pain? Do they think it’s fair? No. They think it’s absolutely unfair. If you can make a choice to release yourself from the necessity to eat murdered angry flesh – which are just dead corpses, wouldn’t you?”
Wow, I never did think of animals in such ways. I’ve been eating meat my whole life so I have no idea what it’s like to NOT eat meat. Every time I thought about how a cow is slaughtered, how sad and how much pain it would go through, my mind would just justify it with a “Well…the whole world eats it, it’s normal. We don’t need to know about their pain – it’s irrelevant.” Just because the whole world does something, doesn’t mean it’s normal…
To know that animals have intelligence and understand things the way we do too have completely changed the way I operate my life. Because turning vegetarian made sense to me, I gave myself the opportunity to try it. Of course, the thought of giving up meat right away was just frightening – but I had hit rock bottom. It only made sense to try things I never have before to find solutions to the blockages of pain in my life.
To my surprise, I felt much lighter, much more energetic, and much much calmer. I was hardly EVER a calm person in my life – always feisty, antsy, and quick-tempered. The only thing I was extremely paranoid about was not getting enough protein (hahahaha #vegetarianproblems). I ate loads of tofu, tempeh, and lentils, only to realize later that I was eating too much of those! Later, I found out that our bodies actually absorb 90% of a plant-based protein when we consume them, and only 10% of animal protein because their muscles are much much harder for our bodies to digest. You end up not needing to eat much plant protein at all to be healthy. After a while, I just stopped thinking about protein altogether, and have remained very healthy and energetic for the past four years. I haven’t gotten sick since, maybe just once or twice because I was brewing in some kind of a self-loathing lesson I was facing.
Turning vegetarian made me a much more compassionate person to myself, others and every living being. I didn’t become a vegetarian because I was compassionate in the first place. I turned because I needed to love me more, know me more, and feel me more and not feel others’ pains. But turning vegetarian have brought so much abundance to my life. Only later did I learn about the cruelty of farmed animals, how miserable they are, how much chemicals and antibiotics are used to sustain them, how more than 70% of the world’s crops are grown to feed animals, how unsustainable that is, how much stinky waste they poop that is creating a dangerous amount of greenhouse gas emission in the world, and how our bodies function like a herbivore – our intestines are too long to keep meat rotting in there for days, and how carnivores only have 3 feet of intestines. I could go on about us being herbivores, but you get the point.
Geniuses like Albert Einstein and Leonardo Da Vinci are both vegetarian for good reasons…
You would think that progressing so much would continue to be a breeze in life, and I did too. I thought that these changes would remain consistent, but it didn’t.
I Hit a Wall
Cutting my hair brought a great sense of liberation to me, as well as my decision to stop wearing make-up.
But one deeply-ingrained pattern of mine persisted stubbornly – my addiction to seeking validation externally.
I’ve never felt so ‘non-exceptional’ in my life…
I was no longer bitchy, fierce, or hot…
Because I truly wanted to let go of each ‘fake’ attributes that I have acquired from each of the personalities that I had, I had to take a look at each of the images I created to be hot, smart, and strong.
Having a thorough look at myself became brutal… I no longer had anything to hold onto – not hair, not boyfriend, and not even make-up. They were no longer my safety nets, my weapons, my precious…
I had to become a nobody so I can learn who I truly was. I had to stop ‘trying’ to be anything else and just ‘be’. And it was damn hard…
Since I no longer had a significant male presence in my life to comfort me, I found other ways to ease my senses when I felt anxious…
I had gained 13 kilos (28 lbs) and became curvy as hell – a body type I never embraced growing up. I always HAD TO BE as skinny as a model (which I never was!) It was a hell of an attachment. I was just plain brutal to myself growing up. And it destroyed me inside. It destroyed me and I couldn’t figure out how to:
- Stop eating my emotions
- Stop wanting to be model-skinny
I lost hope on myself and decided that being ‘wanted’ by men, the way I have been operating for a large part of my life, was my shortcut solution when I just couldn’t handle myself any longer. I turned to my old friend – sexuality to find solace.
Ironic, seeing as I was trying so hard to let that image go.
My sexuality is my most dangerous alter ego – the non-sexual, sexual Tida. The girl walking on a spiritual pathway to detach from everything, yet had the ability to slay men at HER very will whenever SHE wanted to, just because SHE wanted to…
To be continued…
“I’m not feeling like it today Jeffrey…” I texted Jeffrey (with my blackberry) from the intern’s desk at STYLE magazine where I was interning.
“Trust me, it’s a very calming place… Very peaceful… You will like it. I hope you will.” He replied.
“Okay then… where do I meet you?”
“Meet me after work at Little India Station.”
I remember what I wore that day – I was at my skinniest. Black and white striped crew neck long sleeves with black skinny jeans and red pumps. Jeffrey was waiting for me at the exit of Buffalo road market in his work clothes. He greeted me with enthusiasm, and soon after led me down Race Coarse road towards all the Indian restaurants, passing the only restaurant on the road I’ve been to called Banana Leaf Apollo.
He asked me how I was coping with the break up, so I told him the entire detailed story about how horrendously it all went down two nights ago – involving things being thrown out of the apartment, me jumping from balcony to balcony of the tenth floor because he wouldn’t give me my wallet (I could’ve died jumping like that), breaking into his living room balcony with him watching me with a smirk on his face, me juggling all of my belongings down the road in my pirate halloween costume… onto a cab at 4AM in the morning…
By the time I finished my story, Jeffrey told me we had already passed the place but he didn’t want to interrupt my story. We walked back down from Muthu’s Curry restaurant towards Buffalo Road, turning left at a dark, narrow entrance, up a dark set of stairs.
“Jeffrey, this is dodgy…” I quivered like a snobby princess…
“Don’t worry, once you see the place you will love it. Come.” Jeffrey has always been a very firm guy. One quality I admire about him.
We reached the top of the steps and there it was, a baby pink door, painted golden lotuses, thick apple-green borders, and a golden bronze door knob. Jeffrey knocked a few times.
“The guy who’s here is a disciple of the Guru… I think for two decades now. He used to be the head chef at Raffles Hotel. Guruji is still in America.”
A petite, cheerful Indian man greeted us at the door in a bright, oversized bubble gum pink T-shirt.
“Welcome!” He said with a big warm smile on his face. “Here! Have a seat. We reserve the couches for the angels. You can sit on the carpet!”
The place was painted in rainbow colors. Rainbow curtains, lotus pink walls, and crystals and pearls embedded all over every single wall. There was an extraordinary atmosphere to the place – so bright.. so much… light… like heaven in a pink submarine…
He led us to a small living room with three couches – one against each of the walls. One wall with teal georgette curtains and a big golden Star of David in the center.
What is this place!? I quietly sat in curiosity and confusion.
I didn’t understand it in any manner whatsoever, but the sensation I was experiencing was almost numbing. It’s hard for me to describe it, even now… I never felt so much brightness in my life. Truly truly indescribable… It was filled with so much… love….
A distressed caucasian man was sitting in the corner with a peace of paper in his hands, brooding intensely at it with stress. He wore frameless glasses with red rubber temples – TAG Heuer.. I recognized its distinct design. He ignored me as I observed him. Our Indian chef disappeared for a while into the corridor on the left as I sat quietly with Jeffrey with our back against one of the couches.
The Indian man finally joins us once again. The five or ten minute wait felt like forever in this strange place.
“So! What is your story Tida?”
I looked at him, and couldn’t hold in my emotions any longer. I had no idea I was holding it in. WHY IS IT COMING OUT NOW?! I screamed loudly in my own head.
I broke down into tears, intense tears, gushing down my made-up face. My purple eyeshadow and thick mascara were no longer intact.
“I am doing so much! I am trying to finish school. I am interning. I am working. And I can’t handle my life anymore. What am I doing wrong? My relationship is so violently dysfunctional. Why am I not doing anything right?” I whimpered like a waterfall of despair. So much that I didn’t know where I’d kept it all this time. All this time I’d been pretending to have it all together, ignoring all the things that just didn’t seem right at all, and lying to myself that whatever I am doing can and will lead me to happiness.
To be honest, I don’t even remember what I said to the chef. I just remember weeping my eyes out and telling a man I hardly knew about all that I could think of that’s happened in my life.
“What is going on?” I cried..
The light energies of the space was pushing out every damn sack of pain I’d been carrying in my body. My weeping intensified further with sobs and soft hiccups…
Another younger, Indian boy with an American accent had arrived halfway through my venting but too engrossed in my pain was I to pay attention to him…
“Wow. She talks as if she is 200 years old.” said the boy. He looked about my age then (I was 22). I noticed his beautiful light hazel eyes – sparkling with golden brown and green – rather unusual for an Indian person. He was glowing too I noticed.
“Yes, she is an old soul.” replied the chef who suddenly seemed like the Fairy God Mother in Cinderella, comforting poor Cinderella when her dream dress was torn by the evil stepmother (AKA life). He was kind, wise, and exude the type of compassion I’d never seen or felt before in anybody.
“You see, Guruji always tells us that all relationships are karmic…” he continued, “meaning, everybody you meet in this life, you’ve met in your previous lives. You have debts with them you have to clear. The more intense you feel for someone when you first meet them – especially those love-at-first-sight’s, the more intense your past lives were with that person, and the more issues you will have to overcome with that person.” He said.
“Makes sense…” I replied with a soft hiccup I made an attempt to suppress.
A year before that when I was still living in Bangkok, I told my mother how often I got hurt in my own bedroom and how odd it was. I was always walking into sharp corners and edges, always bleeding, always scratching myself with something, as if somebody was actually pushing me into those hazardous corners. Some weird energy resided in my room and I felt it.
She had a friend who studied astrology and knew a master from Taiwan who started seeing things and hearing ‘messages’ when he turned 40, was put in an asylum, only to realize later that he could help people with his newfound abilities (I’m not sure how true this is). I remember him wearing long red robes… But long story short, the master came and ‘blessed’ my room with his chants (in LATIN! He was Taiwanese!) and said some ‘snake’ energy resided in my room and loved the energies of young girls. (I was born on the Snake Chinese zodiac year as well…) He said my room was clear of the snake energy now. (Again, not sure how true this is!)
Later on, through my mother’s shrink-gypsy friend, I met her son and his friends who were all the master’s disciples and really spiritual. One of them claimed he had an ‘affinity’ with me because of our ‘past lives’, that we were together in my lives, and gave me a book called “Many Lives, Many Masters”. Although I was raised a Catholic, I believed in karma and the cycle of birth and death because of Thailand being a Buddhist country. But was I a hundred percent clear on this philosophy – I wasn’t. The lines of catholicism – heaven and hell – made these philosophies unclear to me. I didn’t really understand what the truth of these things were.
Many Lives, Many Masters is a story written by a psychiatrist who had to treat a patient with multiple phobias. Until he used hypnotism, he couldn’t help the girl. Under hypnotism, the girl would talk about a life she was never aware of consciously, going back in time to different eras and periods, stone age in the north, 12th and 16th centuries in Europe, Africa, and Asia… narrating how she would die – drowning in water, burnt alive, etc. and through these things, she developed acute fears in her subconscious that really limited her from living life like a normal human being – she was scared of everything.
Each time she died, she would see a different master, like a guardian angel who would guide her through her after life into her new life, showing her all that she has done in her life and the lessons she had to go through and overcome (I don’t really remember much of this part, but this isn’t important). The psychiatrist assisted her to let go of each fear, and throughout time she was able to let go of each scar she stored in her subconscious.
Through this book, when chef mentioned past lives – I understood him. It became even clearer to me how real and vicious the cycle of birth and death is, the cycle of our lives’ obstacles… And how we come back each time to overcome these fears… I finally understood the fundamentals of Buddhism… Good deeds, bad deeds, detachment, and acceptance…
In one night, I understood relationships like I never did before – karma. All good and bad deeds, debts and unfinished businesses we are clearing with our selves and others. Lust, infatuations, and how we look for others to fill the many holes in our being, not realizing they have just as many holes for us to fill as well. The concept of soul mates – untrue – just karmic debts. You can only give what you have. And if you don’t have enough love for yourself, how can you have enough love for your partner in a relationship?
I came to understand religions too.. I never really understood Jesus or anything at church really, or Buddha, or meditation – why do we have so many religions and methods? Are they even real? Or just myths? Who came up with them? To which I only came to know that mankind go through periods of distresses that desperately need saviors and true guidance from the light, from the cosmic, from the person or energy we call God. Krishna, Jesus, Muhammad, Guru Nanak – are simply light beings sent to give us love, compassion, wisdom, and guidance… It was only the people in greed that formed religions so they could control other people. Jesus didn’t create Christianity.. He didn’t make us all sinners. He only came to love. The bible was written hundreds of years after Jesus gave away His life as a saving energy to eradicate barbarianism at that time. The Pagans, greedy for power and jealous of the movement of Christianity, rigged the Bible with so many glitches, making Christians worship a symbol of pain – the cross, and feel forever guilty to be sinners – never free from this guilt-filled life. If Jesus was truly our beloved, would we put the symbol of his death in our place of worship? In our homes? We have forgotten how to use our heart to love and started following traditions blindly. How can you love Him, love yourself, or have any type of compassion if you are constantly condemned to be reminded that you are guilty and that He is in pain FOR YOU? That is guilt-tripping. Can true love have guilt? He gave His life for us, and for that we shall forever be grateful for – the amount of love he showered on this dimension, but the symbol of his bloodshed should be taken off all churches. We should worship love and compassion as He is, not the pain and suffering that He went through…
It still brings great sadness to my heart each time I see crosses and Jesus on it. For the first time in my life, I felt love for Him. I felt anger for him. And for the first time in my life, I actually felt him. I’ve never heard, felt, or understood Jesus before through my life as a catholic. I’ve never experienced such love before in my life, the type that this place of light opened up within me…
The light ashram I stepped foot into was filled with so much love that over night, my life transformed. In just a few hours spent there, I was able to understand so much about myself and let go of so much that I was holding onto – something quite impossible for my hyperemotional nature.
“But Tida,” continued chef, “if you want to get better, you have to turn vegetarian.”
“What?! What does that have to do with anything? Why?” I tried my best to suppress my upset. This doesn’t make sense. You mean I have to give up my favorite duck rice at the MediaCorp food court? (Where I interned).
“Yes. You see..” He reached his hands over – grabbed my neck from behind with one, and flexed the fingers of the other like a cobra about to attack, and hit me right in the throat violently as I retracted in horror…..
Until my next post…
I can’t believe it’s been two years since I wrote my last blog post! To be very honest, about this time last year, I was contemplating whether to cancel my WordPress membership (it does remind me to pay for my domain name tidawei.com every January), but I decided not to.
“You need to continue writing.” It said.
“Well, alright..” I thought.
I’d like to take this opportunity to thank all of you for leaving all those loving comments on my previous blog post – My Battle with Acne and Self Worth – both on WordPress and on Facebook. Thank you for all of your kind words. All of you guys that took the time to let me know how you felt about my journey made me realize that whatever the heck I was going through, someone else out there too is also going through the same thing.
We’re never alone.
Here’s just an introduction in pictures on how my journey looks like in short (my complexion tells it all doesn’t it..) I thought it would give you an idea of how brutal it truly felt to me.
“Why have you shaved your head?”
A question I have been answering A LOT the past month since I’ve been back in Asia…
“Oh, it’s a long story…” is usually my answer…
So to answer this question, let’s go back to the start of it all.
Rewinding a little bit to July 2011…
7 months after I’d moved to Singapore, Jeffrey followed.
When I met Jeffrey in 2005 through MySpace, he was a cocky, happy-go-lucky rugby player from a British school in Malaysia. We were only 16, we were both Chinese, and we were both studying at an international school (we’re usually interconnected one way or another through our schools). Although we missed the opportunity to see each other each time we were in the same country, we somehow remained friends for the next six years to come, often discussing our High School/College relationships.
When I finally met Jeffrey in the flesh, to my surprise, Jeffrey was no longer that cocky, happy-go-lucky guy I remembered. The CARPE DIEM attitude he so strongly possessed had turned into an aura of melancholy. He seemed worn out almost.
“What happened to Jeffrey?” I thought to myself. His character sparked a lot of confusion in me, but at that point in time, I was too consumed in my relationship to be particularly inclined to care.
That same night after I left Jeffrey and went home, I had my first physical fight with my boyfriend. It was brutal, unreasonable, and plain volatile. Our fights have always been extremely violent emotionally, but never physically.
We broke up for a couple of days and got back together – something we did a lot in our relationship.
Two months after our first meet-up, I finally got together with Jeffrey again over my favorite martinis at No. 5 on Emerald Hill. This time, Jeffrey was talkative, vibrant, and glowing. The dude was glowing!!
It wasn’t the same Jeffrey I saw that night two months ago. What changed?!
I, on the other hand, was still in a volatile relationship, still complaining about it, still the same me. Hopeless and helpless.
Luckily, it didn’t take long before Jeffrey revealed his secret.
“Tida, I found this place. It is so peaceful! If you are opened minded, I will take you. It belongs to this Guru. She…”
As soon as I heard ‘peaceful’, I thought “Yes! I want that.” You know how you hear your morning alarm when you are in a really deep sleep? Distant, like a dream, and yet yapping away… brutally asking you to wake up to the world of reality. My realization that I needed to find some kind of peace of mind hit me like that.
I was miserable and I had no idea what to do about it.
“She is the descendant of the guy Steve Jobs went to India to look for…” Jeffrey continued on…
Who? What? What about Steve Jobs? Ok never mind.
“Yes, I’d love to go!” I told Jeffrey. I hardly made sense of what Jeffrey was on about really. I just knew whatever he was talking about was exactly what I was looking for.
That was early September…
Because I was so consumed in the drama of my life, it didn’t cross my mind to go with Jeffrey to that mysterious magical place until November.
On the night of October 30th, 2011, I had my one last horrendous fight with my boyfriend as a couple.
Of course, at that time I had no idea it was going to be our last fight ever and that we were going to break up. I honestly believed that we were going to get married despite our regular, violently senseless fights… I was that oblivious (or rather, I WANTED to stay oblivious) to the fact that there was something wrong with my life.
But no, it was our last fight. The fight lasted for two days.
Everything that was happening with my life at that moment made no sense to me at all. I had no idea why I was never enough for my boyfriend, or why he was never enough for me… I had no idea why I wasn’t GOOD at anything in life – relationship, school, internship, job… Why was I so unhappy? My life was a living hell… I grew up being labeled as ‘smart’, ‘talented’, ‘wise beyond her years’, yet what the crap was going on with my life?
But the worst part wasn’t the fact that my life was a living hell.
The worst part was that I had no idea at all that it was.
I thought I was just being normal. It makes me wonder how many people out there actually believe their life to be the same, to be normal.
Until my next post.
“Size matters not. Look at me. Judge me by my size, do you? Hmm? Hmm. And well you should not. For my ally is the Force, and a powerful ally it is. Life creates it, makes it grow. Its energy surrounds us and binds us. Luminous beings are we, not this crude matter. You must feel the Force around you; here, between you, me, the tree, the rock, everywhere, yes. Even between the land and the ship.”
– Master Yoda